A little while back, as I drove into work listening to commentary on the decision of the courts to not indict on the Eric Garner case, I felt like I was in a bad dream that I couldn’t wake up from.
I thought how could we come so far and still be so far behind?
How is it possible and why is it ok that our lives don’t matter?
What do I teach my children about their reality without teaching them to be prejudice?
As I drove and listened to the commentary and tried to gather my own thoughts, I halfheartedly did both.
My main thought was, What can we do to change our reality, in nothing less than a constructive and realistic way?
There are a couple good quotes that speak to the effect of “the only thing that you can change is you”.
And while that sounds like a bit much, and even too little of anything to make REAL CHANGE to some, it’s a real starting point, in my humble opinion.What if we worked on 'in-house' issues? Click To Tweet
What if we each as individuals think about our actions and the effects of them on others?
What if we started to change them accordingly?
…..how much of a movement could be had by it?
Would we would then become better parents, spouses, employees, employers, role models, and better people?
As a result could we strengthen our families, our communities and our image?
and you will understand what little chance you have
in CHANGING OTHERS…
If we are striving to be great spouses we lend ourselves to have healthy happy family units. Not perfect, but happy families no less that bring children up with security and confidence and minimal drama and processing through the court systems via, welfare and other government organizations.
We become Christ’s image of love on earth for all to see.
If we are striving to be the best parents we can be, we then lend ourselves to guide our children, encourage our children, and have a positive impact on our children, where social media and the televisions and even the streets are not teaching them what’s cool and even a crooked version of what’s right and wrong, along with the valuable life lessons.
If we set out to be great employees and employers we then are an example of integrity, honesty, hard work, positivity, trust, loyalty, and so much more. We then lend ourselves to be better equipped to provide for our families, our communities and even lift each other up in times of need.
As a whole we become better, because when you know better……
I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.
What if we started with loving each other instead of competing with, comparing between, breaking down, and even killing each other?
I mean really, we are prejudice against each other, so why are we surprised when others are?
I can’t verbalize how many times I hear about and even witness the whole light skin/ dark skin thing.
There are differences in complexion in pretty much every culture, but how often do you see a line drawn in the sand among them, making one better than another?
I’m just saying.
We learn new things, and instead of bringing back what we learned we go on our way leaving the rest to fend for themselves.
But if each one teaches one, then we spread the knowledge in the same way that a negative image goes viral on social media. Right?
Have you heard the saying, “You teach others how to treat you”?
Do you think it applies here?
It’s a subjective question, but I personally think it does. I mean you hear the comments people make about blacks killing blacks and how we will destroy our own communities by lacking to care for them and take pride in what we have. When we will kill each other out of greed, jealousy, selfishness or even no reason at all, what are we teaching others, what are we teaching our children who are watching our example?
If we set out to give tough love, but love none the less, what could it hurt?What's the worse that could happen if we choose to love?? Click To Tweet
Would the end result be that we spread more love, more positivity and we make those vital deposits into each other?
Again, I dunno, I’m just posing the question…
What if we educate ourselves beyond social media and consider THAT the new “FLY”?
Even the poorest of us will go out and buy a pair of shoes that cost in excess of one hundred dollars, a purse that costs hundreds if not thousands when we can’t afford it or chose to go without the essentials to have it, and have more clothes than we have places to wear them to.
If we spent that money on making our insides as attractive as the outsides, our brains as strong as our muscles, and building a legacy, not to mention an inheritance to leave behind, we lessen the likelihood to be dependent on systems that were not created for us in the first place, to have our own capital and investments to depend on, and a legacy for future generations to walk in.
What if we all invested that money we spend on being “FLY” into our communities, our fight, our causes, and trust me we have plenty of them as evidenced by the recent news headlines?
Do we then have a voice? Can we then demand (peacefully and respectfully) to be heard, to be considered, to be respected and to be treated as we deserve.
We then have the ability to stand for something instead of falling for everything someone posts on social media, or that pops up in a timeline you frequent.
We then matter, at minimum to each other and there is strength in numbers, so we can gather and not only protest to the courts and the system and the others to acknowledge us but we can bombard the gates of heaven with our prayers and our cries, and trust that where two or more are gathered….
What if we started black businesses with the intentions of helping people instead of becoming rich, or better yet “hood rich”, and just watched how God would multiply our territory?
What if we stopped trying to do less in hopes of gaining more and failing at operating successful businesses because we demonstrated, a true caring and passion for people, a strong work ethic, and we actually worked hard to build so that we have a foundation to support and uplift each other?
It goes back to learning and then sharing the knowledge, working hard and with integrity, providing for our own families, and being a better people.
Because between us killing each other and then the police killing us, we are literally and figuratively dodging bullets from every direction.
Our children are growing up with targets on their backs and we are left feeling and thinking “what can we do?”
Even those of us who are educated and trying to live honest, upright lives will be judged and treated according to the masses that represent us.
There are several issues with all of this; some of which is in house business and we need to address that, before we can address the overall issue which is bigger than a black issue it is an American issue, it is a people issue, it is a heart issue.
Steve Harvey said it best:
“Black men’s lives have to be more than a notion”
And it’s true for black men and women alike.