When I first started this site, I knew that I wanted it to be a place where women who truly seek to see their potential, even through their flaws, could.
I imagined a community where women would share openly and candidly, to the extent they felt comfortable.
Not for pity parties, pain parades, or just for the sake of sharing. But so that we help to lift one another up. Through empowering others while being empowered ourselves.
You may have noticed I changed the name that I write under and I shared the details about that here.
I finished that post by saying, I didn’t know what else would change around here but I was excited about it.
I now know what changes will be made, and I’ll be sharing those over the course of the coming weeks. But for now, I wanted to touch up on why this concept is so important for us as women.
Transparency in our life, it is pretty much just like the interpretation in the artistic sense. The one we see in software like photoshop.
Transparency is how much we allow others to see through based on the opaqueness of our “fill”.
While it has become a bit of a buzzword lately, true transparency makes room for growth. Real growth.
Think about a day you are going somewhere special. A night out with the girls. On a first date. Or to church on Sunday morning You pick.
To get ready, you put on your undergarments, fine clothes, smell goods (otherwise known as perfume) and your best face sponsored by Maybelline, Cover Girl or MAC – again you get to choose.
When you look in the mirror you see your best you, and you hope that when others see you that they see you for your best as well.Underneath the layers that we put on, lays our most vulnerable self Click To Tweet
Underneath the layers that we put on, lays our most vulnerable self, the person we have to face the good, bad and ugly with. At some point we all have to face our true selves and when we chose not to we stunt our growth.
While it takes more than just identifying our flaws and imperfections to make any type of change.
The first step is in the identification of those flaws.
The next step in our growth process can be (notice I didn’t say has to be) our ability to be vulnerable enough to share and open up which allows others to help carry our burdens, and to grow as well.
This is not to say that you need to put your business on a billboard and broadcast it to the world, but allowing others to see our flaws and imperfections and the struggle to grow then enables us to be a blessing to others; and I think you potentially equip them with the ability to do the same for themselves.
We all have differences in experiences, struggles and most things, but the irony of it is that most of it can be categorized the same. God gives each of us our struggles for a purpose and a reason, one which I believe is beyond ourselves.
I believe that God gives a few things in our struggles:
This is the part that is for yourself. The part where we have the opportunity to grow and even change directions if need be. This is the behind the scenes action if you will. Not everyone will see you go through it and learn from it. A close few may notice, but most won’t unless we give them the story.
As we go through life we all stumble and make mistakes. Some more monumental than others, but we all make them. As we navigate our way through them, I have come to realize that it is never in vain.
God ordered my steps and knew what would happen before it happened to me. He also knew what the outcome would be.
As I go through things in life, especially during, but not only in the hard times, I try to make sure that I learn the lesson in the struggle. I try to be sure that I am not in a position to repeat the same mistake and suffer in the same way.
When I was younger, I made terrible financial decisions. Some out of a lack of understanding of the impact. Some just out of pure carelessness. Part of it was that young and invisible thinking. Where you believe that certain things just don’t happen to you because you are too young, or too whatever. The other part of it was just plain foolish.
I had to struggle for many years as a result of those decisions. I had to work even harder as a single mother to take care of my child because I no longer had my good name (credit worthiness) to stand on.
While I took measures to improve my financial circumstances and did the work to dig myself out, I know that it is no coincidence that I have a partner who is the complete opposite of me when it comes to finances. Truly through the grace of God it has manifested in this way.When we chose to not face our true selves, we stunt our growth... Click To Tweet
Some people would be ashamed to share with you the details. I find for myself that it is better to share my story and my struggle and how I came to overcome the position I was in. Whether it is to help someone to avoid making those same decisions or to encourage them that they can navigate their way back. Either way, I don’t mind sharing.
The second part that our struggles give us is for others. It’s your message. God gives you a story.
As we walk, stroll or skip through life each season marks a chapter in our story. Every season happens for a reason.
If we only allow others to see us in our best light, we block the “good news” that God has called us to share.
We block the future blessings due to us and even possibly, we potentially block the blessings that are in store for others.
In my short time here on earth I have learned many lessons. I am working my way through some right now. Undoubtedly, I am sure there are even more to come. Much of what I have learned has been through making my own mistakes. Trial and error. But a great deal of what I have learned and gained wisdom through is watching others, talking to others, sharing with others, and doing life with others.
The life that we are given is really not about us at all. When we begin to realize that, it opens doors into our purpose.
For this reason alone, I believe transparency is more than necessary for us to continue to help build each other up.
Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real
I strongly suggest that as you navigate your way through life, no matter how old, or what stage you are in, that you find someone to do it with you.
Someone that you trust to share with. Who will hear you and not judge. Support you and whom you can support.
While there are some things that will be changing over the next few weeks with this site and space. Openly and honestly sharing and empowering, sharing and building up women will not be one of the changes.