Proverbs 31 is one of my favorite scriptures by far.
Recently I was reading through it and it dawned on me that although it is titled The Capable Wife, it applies to all my ladies out there.
You don’t have to be a wife, to embrace all of these things that, to me, define what a good woman really is in god’s eyes.
I wish I had this one in my toolbox when I was still single. In my mind, these aren’t guidelines to be a good wife, but rather just flat out a good woman – single, married, or in a situation that falls under the Facebook label of “it’s complicated”.
As I was reading through this, I was just looking at how these things can be translated to apply to all women who are just trying to live life as a “good woman”.
So here are just some of my thoughts as I was going through this:
How hard it is to find a capable wife! She is worth far more than jewels!
Know your worth! It is plain and clear, that you are worth far more than these things we deem of value here on earth. Think about how you treat your belongings. Are you treating yourself (and also demanding others to treat you) just as good if not better. I know women (and I may have been one in my younger years if I allow myself to be honest) that would be ready to fall out with you if you disrespected my stuff, but then would be in a “relationship” with a guy that didn’t treat them/me as deserved.
I’ll say it again KNOW.YOUR.WORTH!
This is done by how you take care of yourself, but also in the company you keep and what offenses you allow yourself to tolerate from others.
I’ll say it again in case you didn’t hear me “Know your worth!”
Her husband puts his confidence in her, and he will never be poor.
The bible says a man who finds a wife has found a good thing.
Are you being a good person? Good woman? Are you really that good thing?
While life’s circumstances can potentially lead to being poor in finances, with you he should be rich in love, and knowing his value, and feeling encouragement and support! The saying is that hurt people, hurt people. Learn to take time between relationships to heal and to learn a lesson or two. Reflect on the situation and what you liked and didn’t like about it and move forward whole so that you may be ready for the good man God sends you, because after all every good woman deserves a good man – and my friend you are GOOD!
As long as she lives, she does him good and never harm.
This means even when you are mad, there has to be a conscious effort to be good to people even when they are not deserving. After all we should all be loving our neighbor, right? So even if you are not married, this holds true in our interactions with family, friends and even straight up strangers. Cause after all you are the light, right?
She keeps herself busy making wool and linen cloth.
Don’t take that literally ladies! While I think I am pretty domestic (and my hubby would agree), I am NOT making clothes in my household; sewing back on a button or hemming some pants? I GOT IT! But that’s about all. But don’t be a busy body in gossip and negativity. Rather, keep yourself busy in the pursuit of being closer to your creator and loving and valuing yourself in the way you would expect others to.
I interpret this to mean she is busy taking care of her family and making sure they have what they need. To the ladies out there sewing it up – I need you in my family, will you marry us?? Ok, I kid, I kid, but man…LOL!
She brings home food from out-of-the-way places, as merchant ships do.
Don’t be that girl that has your family’s face being the familiar faces in the place at every.single.restaurant. Bring home the food – the good stuff – healthy and tasty, and make sure the bellies of your families (and guests if you like to entertain) are full.
She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and to tell her servant women what to do.
While we don’t have servants, we can be up and preparing for our families. I mean we are not all morning people, so for you night owls do your planning before bed so that you can get those extra zzzz’s in the morning. Pay attention to the details, the small things are actually the big things in the long run.
She looks at land and buys it, and with money she has earned she plants a vineyard.
All you have ladies is your name (and your Good looks, but they won’t buy you anything). Keep your business in order. Make taking care of your finances a priority no matter the amount of money that you make so that you can take care of your family.
Plainly put, we should not be living beyond our means. When we use what God blesses us with responsibly and to help others, then he knows he can trust us with more.All you have ladies is your name. So keep your business in order. #integrity Click To Tweet
She is a hard worker, strong and industrious.
Go hard or go home! There is no time to be lazy. There is too much to be done. Raising our children, supporting friends and loved ones when needed, and tending to our own needs to ensure we have something left of ourselves to give is no light task. Even when you are in a job you don’t like or a role you prefer not to be, do it and do it well, do it to your best, you never know what it is preparing you for, who is watching and what your next step may be. So work hard at everything you do and utilize your resources to do your best!
(Verses 18 and 19 left out intentionally)
She is generous to the poor and needy.
There is no room for judgment and mistreatment of people. Any of us could have our world turned upside down at any given moment. Don’t treat a person any less because of what they don’t have.
She doesn’t worry when it snows, because her family has warm clothing.
This is where your hard work pays off. Your family is the benefactors of your labor, it is not in vain. Be motivated by being able to provide for and care for those you love.
(Verses 22 – 24 left out intentionally)
She is strong and respected and not afraid of the future.
Living each day to its fullest and making the most of the time afforded. Not afraid because she knows who she belongs to and the promises that are in store for her.
Respect is earned and not given, so be the type of woman that all people can’t help but to respect. Your disposition and demeanor go a LONG way!
She speaks with a gentle wisdom.
Careful in the words you choose, the tone you use and the way you interact with others. You don’t have to be the loudest to be heard.
Proverbs 31:27 – 31
She is always busy and looks after her family’s needs. Her children show their appreciation, and her husband praises her. He says, “Many women are good wives, but you are the best of them all.” Charm is deceptive and beauty disappears, but a woman who honors the Lord should be praised. Give her credit for all she does. She deserves the respect of everyone.
These last few verses sums it all up. Be a good woman because that is what you were designed to be. Even if you are unmarried, some day you may be.
Note: These verses were from the Good News Translation (GNT) of the bible.