I’ve struggled with friendships, practically my whole life; and as cliché as it sounds, especially with females. As I’ve gotten older I am more open to it, but I feel too old to be trying to make new friends, when most adult women have already established their good girlfriends, and in a “no new friends” time we exist in its almost impossible.
Add on my struggle with discernment of character, often times being misperceived and selectiveness of the company I keep and not only is there a road block but a whole darn boulder in the way…
Women are highly complex beings. We are quirky beyond normal human differences and then you tack on those little blessings (I say it most sarcastically) called hormones and a volcano can erupt in a matter of minutes.
Within our own species there is a large inclination of mistrust, jealously, inability to forgive, and miscommunication (whether we are over or under communicators).
There is the adage that people come in your life for reasons, seasons or lifetimes and I struggle with letting go.
I have recently felt the need to clean house, to purge the baggage and travel lighter and with more quality relationships in tow. It sounds harsh, but it is a rather harsh reality. You can’t hold on to friendships because of the time you had them or all that you have been through, some relationships just run their course.You can’t hold on to friendships because of the time, some relationships just run their course. Click To Tweet
Today it seems the latest trending phrase is the whole “No New Friends” thing.
And I get it.
People now days are catfishing and creating these fake identities of who they always wanted to be rather than who they are and trust is at an all-time premium because of it. But I have never been one to make friends easily for several reasons, but one of the lessons I am learning as I get older is how essential friendship is to the soul.#friendship is essential to the #soul! Click To Tweet
The real kind, is anyway.
You know. Where you talk, and hang out, and have common interests and even some differences. It really is essential.
While most are closed to the idea of new people and interactions, I have to say that I AM open and accepting to the possibility of new friends. Not looking to replace the old, but just like the old Girl Scouts song said – “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.”