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It is easy for single women to fall victim to society’s misconceptions and stereotypes; especially those above a certain age.
Once you hit 30, people begin to look at you differently for being single, particularly if you do not have children. For some reason society has alienated the single girl to make her believe something is wrong with her.
However, I am here to tell you differently. There is nothing wrong with being single and waiting for the right time to commit to that special someone.
Being alone does not equal loneliness.
Loneliness is a state of mind and has nothing to do with the amount of people around you. You can be lonely surrounded by people. If the people around you do not understand you, appreciate you, or love you – you might as well be alone. So do not confuse one’s marital status with their ability to connect and spend time with people.
There is something special about a person, who can enjoy the company of their self. This is extremely true for women, who are often identified by the roles they hold instead of the person they are.There is something special about a person who can enjoy their own company #selflove w/ @cupidsplanner Click To Tweet
Yes, being a mother, a sister, a wife, a daughter, and a friend are all important and enjoyable roles. However, they should not define you, because those roles can change at any time. Spending time alone allows you the time to discover whom you are deep down inside, outside of the roles you hold. This is important because let’s get real, as women, we often carry the brunt of the weight of the family.
So, no a happy healthy single woman is not desperately seeking the company of the first person who approaches her. The happy healthy single woman understands that this is a valuable time of her life and that she may not get a time like this again. Lets face the facts, once you get married and have children the time you have to discover yourself or spend alone is little to non-existent.
It is for these reasons that single women are not envious of their married counterparts.
Yes, we do see the benefits and joys of being married or in a relationship, but we also see the hardships too. We see how often as women we carry the weight of the family on our backs. So while we are willing to welcome these joys and pains, it has to be at the right time. We do not feel the need to rush it, just to fit societal norms.
Another misconception of single women is that we do not like couples.
This is not true for the healthy happy single woman. We are not hunting for your man and are not bitter that you have a man. The same way a married woman or a taken woman can be happy for others, so can a single woman. Being single does not equate to being bitter.
In fact, solitude allows you the time to discover your true values and see things at a deeper level. It helps you tap into the things that are really important.
So a single woman, who is using the time appropriately, is not getting caught up on the small things. We are just trying to be around positive people with good vibes.
Overall, the truth of the matter is single women are single because they want to be. Some may want the companionship of a man but we are not settling. It does not mean we have unrealistic standards. It just means time has not come yet.
Do not judge a book by its cover. Do not let society push you into believing the stereotypes and the misconceptions of being a single woman.
Instead, take your time to get to know people for who they are.Single Woman, do not feel pressured to explain your relationship status to anyone #singleandhappy w/ @cupidsplanner Click To Tweet
On another note, if you are a single woman do not feel pressured to explain your relationship status to anyone. Enjoy your time and if you want to change your relationship status do so, at your own pace. At the end of the day you have to be happy with your life. So do not feel guilty, pressured or ashamed.
You are unique and special.