Not that I have any sayso or that my opinion even matters for the union that was formed from what has come to be known as #ForeverDuncan.
Can you say “Helllllloooooo October!!”
But as usual, every one has an opinion.
And some are negative.
Which, really, is no surprise because some people could not be happy for someone genuinely if given a course, and all the answers on it.
But with all the amazingness that happened at the beginning of this month, I wanted to sprinkle some positive energy on the situation. Again, not that it’s needed, from me. But because my ol’ sucker for love self just can’t resist and I want to.
If you are not familiar with what happened with the whole #foreverduncan let me give you a quick run down.
Sherrell woke up single, dating and very much in love with Alfred Duncan, from what I can tell on social media.
Duncan, proposed to her by noon and married her by six, and she was none the wiser about it all before it happened.
Many can not believe that he pulled that off. Some are so happy and overjoyed for the couple, and then a few of y’all are just flat out hating.
There is always a few.
I have heard that she was being too dramatic, he was controlling, or that he was a Devo (male Diva) for planning the wedding for her, and even that he took her opportunity to have her wedding the way she wanted away from her.
Well let’s set some of that straight.
But first let me start off by asking if you know just how much it takes to pull off a wedding when both parties know about it?
Now think about how much insight, creativity, and planning it took to pull that off dolo (that means solo in my house).the insight, creativity, and planning it took to pull that off dolo... #foreverduncan Click To Tweet
Right, that took some skill and some talent, and some trust, and some all out grace from the man above – all that! It took all that…. and some RESEARCH!
Here are a few things Alfred had to research to pull this off.
“He knows my heart, he knows I didn’t want to plan a wedding,” the newlywed told Good Morning Washington the day after the wedding.
Alfred knew she didn’t want to plan a wedding, so bloop, he took that off the list, made it so all she had to do was show up.
He married her in front of their friends and their families. Do you know how much research he had to do to get everyones numbers, get the message out, the details and so on?
I once planned my husband a surprise birthday party. It was hard. The end.
He had to figure out a way that she would go along with it, without asking any, or at least minimal questions.
Let me just say this is a prime example of a woman letting her man lead. The fact that she trusted him enough to pull this off without asking any questions? How many of y’all could have let this play out without sabotaging it before it even got to happen?
She mentioned on the interview with Good Morning America (GMA) that she was wondering what was going on, with him disappearing to take phone calls and whatnot. But still, she trusted him to lead her on this day.
Take notes y’all…
Her glam squad
He had her set up to have her hair, nails and makeup done after the engagement in preparation for the wedding. Which means, he coordinated all of that! And with the right amount of time.
That is a man miracle in and of itself.
Women, in particular black women, are not letting just anybody do any of the above.
And for stylists to be put in such a time pinch and deliver all of the beautiful that Sherrell was on her wedding day….
He did that!
I don’t know Sherrell. Never heard of her before that Sunday when the #foreverduncan hashtag caught my attention. But I can see all over her response to the surprise, that girl has a heart for God (and her man). He knew just what to do to get that reaction from his bride. To make her feel like the prettiest, most loved girl in the world. And THAT is what it is all about.
A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.
Personally being the lover of love that I am, I think that what Alfred did is amazing!
He just set the bar, and honestly, I don’t know if anyone can raise it any time soon.
Taking anything away from her? Most certainly NOT!
He gave her the day of her dreams, without the stress, drama, and foolishness that can come with it. And trust me when I say, I know about the foolishness that can go down with planning a wedding. He gave her his last name. He gave her the love of the church.
I wish Alfred and Sherrell nothing but blessings and great things. And you should too!
To quote my girl Naetorious, “it’s nice to have a hashtag for black people that doesn’t have blood shed on it”
Here’s a video wrapping it all up for you.