This post is a guest post from E.B. Davis of Cupid’s Planner. I am excited to have her here today talking about self love. See below for more about her.
The Journey of Love Starts Within
There is an old saying that you cannot give what you do not have. This is true for money, food, clothing, and love. If you do not love yourself, it will be difficult for you to love someone else and more importantly it will be impossible for you to receive love from someone else.
Why do I say this? Well let’s think about this; love is often thought about in the romantic sense; however, the type of love that transcends is agape love, which at its basics is understanding, compassion and appreciation. Agape love is bigger than romance. You cannot project love on to someone else because the same self-criticism, mistreatment and under-appreciation you show yourself will be projected on others. Agape love is what I believe the world needs more of.Agape love is bigger than romance.... w/ @cupidsplanner Click To Tweet
Now lets look at this from the other direction, to why it will be difficult for you to receive love from others. People tend to fear what they do not understand. So if you are not use to treating yourself with love, your mind, body and spirit will be sent into a shock when someone else starts to treat you with love. Your emotional gates will be flooded. It is also important to remember that you can only receive as much as you feel you deserve.
So how can you start the journey of self-love? Well the first thing you can do is to stop criticizing yourself. Everyone is entitled to make mistakes and no one is perfect. So stop beating yourself up. Yes, work on yourself to be better but accept your flaws. Your flaws are apart of what makes you unique.
The second step you need to take in the journey of self-love is understanding. Understand that as time progress people change, situations change and things just change. So understand and recognize your unique circumstances.
The third step in the journey of self-love is appreciation. Appreciate who you are and give yourself rewards when they are due. Do not boggle yourself down with all work and no play. Live a little and enjoy life.
The forth step you need to take to self-love is forgiveness. Forgiveness is vital. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made; forgive yourself for the things that you believe you have allowed to happen to you, and forgive others, who you feel have done you wrong.Appreciate who you are and give yourself rewards when they are due... w/ @cupidsplanner Click To Tweet
The fifth step to self-love is practicing love. This includes being grateful and treating others with compassion, understanding, forgiveness, as well as appreciation. Even when you think they are undeserving of such love. Fake loving yourself until you feel it.
Critics will say you do not need to love yourself first to give or receive love from someone else. However, I believe if you do not work out your own issues first those same issues will resurface and impact your relationships. So you are not only affecting one person, but now you are others.
The journey of self-love does not need a perfect time to start and is never over. It is a continuous process. There will be ups and downs in this journey, but it is a worthwhile journey.