We live in times of I want it and I need it right now.
Email sped up what we now call snail mail.
The microwave changed the dynamics of a home cooked meal.
The dishwasher, leaf blower, riding mower among other things changed the dynamics of maintaining the home front.
Restaurants allow you to call or order online and never even get out your car when you get there to pick it up…
And let’s not even talk about the internet – it wiped out the card catalog, the encyclopedia, some magazines, and so much more.
Not only can we get it quick, we can get more than we ever even imagined we might have wanted, without ever having to wait.
I’ve shared with you that even though I have siblings, I basically grew up as an only child. While I don’t say this (or type this) out loud often, I guess you can say that I was spoiled. Even though I did eventually get an in-home sibling (and I say in-home because I have another sibling from my father), I was still the only girl, so that factored in a bit too I suppose.
The reason I share this with you is because I am building up to being honest, and saying something I may or may not have denied up until recently.
Having children has shown me just how much I lack in it and with it actually.
What is this “it” you ask??
There I said it; I am not the most patient person. Judge not…lol.
Patience is the art of concealing your impatience.
Yet another reason that I love my hubby and how he balances me out, because that man has the patience of Job, and what little patience I do have, I have followed his lead.Patience is a virtue indeed, and I aspire to be a virtuous woman, so I’ve got work to do. Click To Tweet
Patience is not only a virtue, it is also on Paul’s list of fruit bearing qualities found over in Galatians.
This is yet another scripture I hope to fully embody on my journey to becoming and being that Proverbs 31 Woman I speak of.
Let’s dig dipper, shall we?
Patience is in essence waiting without complaint.
Which when put that way it could mean that if you’re husband normally gets home at 5 and it’s now 5:25 and you are still not complaining about his untimely arrival, thus you must be demonstrating patience, right?
Patience isn’t just the waiting without complaint; it is the enduring of uneasiness, adversity or aggravation and STILL waiting without complaint.
So if we used the same example above, but inserted that you have been with a crying child all day, and are now in a position where you could use help as you cook dinner, manage that crying kid AND trying to do homework with an older kid, and your husband’s arrival is untimely and without forewarning or explanation and you THEN are without complaint – you my friend are demonstrating patience; GREAT PATIENCE and I commend you, because that is not normally my truth in those situations.
This writing is so on time because as of lately, I have been EXTREMELY impatient with my kids.
Just last week I found myself fussing at my oldest because when I get to summer camp to pick her up she is not ready, or unable to be found. I found myself throwing out that I still have another child to pick up and the traffic battle and the thought of the responsibilities awaiting me when I get home, and so on and so on.
None of which are her responsibility or honestly her concern…
This past weekend I have been reflecting on how I can demonstrate greater patience, and like usual I don’t have the answer. Sorry!
I, like some of you, are working through demonstrating greater patience. While patience with my kids and my family as a whole is at the top of my list, I need better patience overall.
Case in point, as I type this, I am on the phone with a utility company. They can’t seem to get it together and after several bouts of being on hold, me hanging up and calling back, and people seeming like they don’t have a clue, I am literally ready to flip a lid (and/or a table). I’m a work in progress, pray for ya girl – ok?
I am glad I am writing this because I keep reminding myself of the fact that they are just people trying to do their job and that me getting in a tizzy will not make this any better.
The more and more I think about patience, the more the word grace comes to mind. To fully embrace the concept of grace, would then bear a greater inclination to be patient.
This further confirms for me that I am truly still on my bambi legs in this faith walk.
As overwhelmed and in a crazy space that I am in right now, I understand that all things are working for a greater good and the spot and time I am in, is not a surprise to God. I am reminded of 2 Peter 3:9
My prayer right now is this:
Please help me to remember that every trial that comes my way has already been known to You in advance, and to know that You are with me. I know that I am to be “patient in affliction”. I am grateful for all You have provided me and I need to always remember that You are in control. Lord, I am learning more every day to be content with life in the moment, trust in you, and extend love and grace to others because You are showing me Your grace and mercy daily. I will persevere through these trials, Lord, because You are with me! Thank you for being patient with me as I am learning to be patient with others, and through my own afflictions. Amen
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