She is an amazing woman I had the opportunity to meet and eventually befriend through our participation in the 2014 Could Be Bitter campaign.
She is a woman who truly prays without ceasing and to know her is to love her. She is the author behind two opposite but yet necessary blogs:
My Book of Randoms, a place of real, random, and funny. Here she drop random thoughts and real life happenings in her day to day life. Guaranteed to make you laugh on any given day.
Hey Sis… is a place of transparency and healing for the christian woman or woman who wants to know Christ. Here she is just getting started, but don’t miss out because she will be beyond a blessing for many.
Today Vee is sharing with us her struggle through being recently divorced.
I am the mom of two awesome boys who are my heart strings!!
I am newly divorced, which has been a transition. Being a mother and wife has been my role for the past 12/13 years…
I’ve just recently began to (re)discover that I have other facets! I have had a respect and love for words since I was 3, but my passion to write has been ignited within the past couple of years when I discovered blogging.
My goal is to write full time for a living. I believe my purpose is to spread the love of Christ to my sisters that may be hurting or need encouragement. I want my writing to uplift the kingdom of God. The Bible says that our gifts will make room for us. That is what I’m claiming for my life!
I think divorced shaped me.
Divorce is nasty and ugly and sad. I had to make a daily decision not to be bitter. Each day there were new revelations of infidelity, of lies, of deceit and manipulation that spanned wide. I got to the point where I didn’t know who I could trust.
All reasons for me to let hate take root. But I had to refuse. On my low days I felt God. And on days when I didn’t feel Him, deep in my spirit I was smart enough to know He was still there.
The woman that I am today is FULLY aware of God, His power, His promises and His love for me. I would not have known the depth of His strength, had my divorce process left me so weak and depleted.
I’m strong in Him. My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus’ blood and righteousness…
Coincidentally, my greatest struggle is probably the same as what shaped me. I had to get in a very uncomfortable place in life, to find a great place in Christ.
The intimacy I have in my relationship with Christ is priceless. But has been a process.
A lot of times, it’s a fight. It’s so much easier to wallow in pain, to sit and stew, and to hate because of it.
As I mature in Christ I know it takes courage to be in an awful situation, yet choose to believe that God’s word is true, and that is all working out for my good.
There will always be situations and circumstances sent to rock our world, to shake our beliefs. I choose every day to stand with Christ. To stand in faith. To believe God’s word instead of man’s words.
Some days, sometimes I miss the mark. Sometimes I focus too much on the wrong things. However, I am way stronger today in this walk then I was yesterday! And tomorrow, I will be stronger than I was today!
My advice to someone walking a road similar to mine is that you won’t die in your situation.you won't die in your situation... @veejoyful Click To Tweet
Whatever it is, you won’t die. No weapon formed against you will prosper! But you do need to gear up and fight in order to overcome it.
Some days will feel like hell, look like hell, and you will have to fight past those moments. This walk, the way to overcome anything is to not focus on feelings, but on facts. It may sound cliché, but it is the truth!!The facts are in the Bible. You have to speak it, believe it, and walk in it. @veejoyful Click To Tweet
There was a group of 9 women in a group I started entitle MRS! (Made in His Image, Reaping His benefits, Standing in Sisterhood). A lot of us didn’t know each other in the beginning but I think we forged a pretty good friendship and support group.
When I was dealing with infidelity, and the eventual death of my marriage, the women in this group and a few others…they were my rock. When I felt like giving up, they wouldn’t let me. When I felt God had forgotten about me, they reminded me that He hadn’t. When I couldn’t sleep at night they offered me their couch. When I cried, their shoulder.
When the Israelites were in battle, as long as Moses stood with his hands raised towards heaven, they were winning. When his hands would slip down, because he was tired, the Israelites would lose. The remedy was to have him sit down, and his brother Aaron and Hur stand on either side of him, and help hold his hands up.
Sometimes you need help to praise God through rough situations. Sometimes you need your sisters to stand with you. You need someone to remind you to praise, hold your arms for you, when you are too tired to do it yourself.I've been blessed with many sisters determined to help me win the battle. @veejoyful Click To Tweet
I am learning to be transparent with my writing. Anything that I have posted up until recently has been anonymous. I created two blogs, where I vented about areas in my life and problems that I had not seen tackled so far. The response was awesome!
So many women said that they were blessed and encouraged by what I wrote. But I still hid behind a fake name. Now, I’m writing and I’m claiming it. Transparency is scary! Lol! But I plan to enjoy the journey.
See what I mean?? Vee is filled with awesomeness and gifts. Watch for her.
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