A few years back I took part in this life group at church called Woman 2 Woman.
It was a group made up of women, some young and some more mature (not old). The intent of the class was to grow in our Christian womanhood in order to be a role model in some capacity to other women.
The guiding verses of that particular group was Titus 2:3-5, as you see referenced below.
At that point, I didn’t really see myself as a role model or even being one anytime soon, as I had so much baggage and I was such an imperfect soul. Instead, I was there to suck everything out of these awesome ladies that I could to deposit into my toolbox on my journey to being a better woman (after all, being better is what it is all about, right?)
But I often times reflect on this verse and as I mentioned in my bio, it is one of those guiding verses for me. For this reason, I want to break down my thoughts on this one, as I did for Proverbs 31. I truly believe this one is another one that can be a blessing to many.
This verse is so HEAVY.
And by heavy I mean it is POWER PACKED!
First let me say that older is subjective. Technically speaking we are all older than someone, which in turn can make this apply directly to me and YOU.
I want to take this one from the back to the front. Teach others what is good.
And how exactly do we do this?
We teach as mothers, sisters, aunties, friends, we are all in a role to be a teacher to someone. And the best way that we may teach each other is to live out what we want others to see – and make it GOOD!
The instructions are actually right there if we go back to the beginning of the verse.
Good in that we are not insulting or belittling others, allowing our minds to be altered by drinking heavy or indulging in mind altering behavior. Instead, by living in a way that honors God, as instructed by his word.
Now let me go on the record and say that even I indulge in an occasional sip of something my daughter knows to be a “grown up juice“, be it wine, or something else that is normally sweet and fruity, but I am never drunk. I just don’t like the way it feels.We don’t have to hold the title of a teacher to teach. Click To Tweet
We were all born sinners and will continually fall short of living honorably, it’s just our nature. But that does not mean that we do not continually take the time to do our best at living to honor God, setting an example and teaching others how to do the same through our example.
Again, the terms older and younger are not in reference to those who are older or younger in age, but instead it references lesser or more experienced in the roles mentioned.
Marriage and parenting in the biblical context requires guidance and direction. We within ourselves are just not equipped to do it, and do it in the way that God intended for us to do it. We have to uplift each other, pray for each other, and help one another in these roles.
The distractions of life can take you off the focus necessary to be the type of wife and parent that God has called each and every one of us to be.
For this reason we are called to continually teach and uplift each other in our mothering and in loving our husbands.
Wisdom comes from experience. As we gain the experience that life has to offer we should live our lives accordingly in giving honor to God’s kingdom, with pure intentions and actions.
Working in your home does not mean that you have to be a stay at home wife, mother and so on. But it means that you are being the maker of your home and making sure that your family are taken care of, provided for and have their needs met. You are doing the necessary work to fulfill the duties of your home.
Let me further clarify that this does not mean that all of the work at home is yours to do. But you have to find the system that works for your home. Case in point, many would argue that laundry is a chore left for the woman of the home. In my home, that is not the case. My husband saw that laundry was not my strong suit. I will still be doing the prior week’s laundry when the next week arrives; clothes aren’t folded, we have stuff in baskets that you don’t know if it is clean or dirty.
My hubby just finally came to me and said “I got this”. I will help out when needed with the laundry, but to expect me to do laundry every week, it doesn’t work; we have found a system where we work together that works – in my book that counts!
Ahhhh that “S” word.
Good ol’ Submission.
This one is a hard one for a lot of women, but this is biblical. It is straight from the BIBLE.
Because so many women struggle with this, this is a HUGE area where the Titus 2 woman can help others to grow, to be better, and honor God and her husband.
To submit to your husband does not mean that you have to lose your voice, your opinion, or even who you are. What it does mean is that you are allowing your husband to lead your household (with your help of course, that’s why you are his “help mate”).
Let me give you an example.
My first born is not my husband’s biological child. But when there are decisions that need to be made I go to him. I tell him my thoughts and position and we discuss. I then tell him that ultimately the final decision is his and whatever he says I will roll with.
Even though he is not her biological father, he is my husband. He is the MAN OF OUR HOME, whom holds responsibility before God for us under him.
In the beginning, it was even hard for him to grasp that I trusted him in that way. That I entrusted us to him completely, and further that I RESPECTED him in that way blew his mind. But dig this, it gave him a confidence in his ability to lead us like no other.
And I said CONFIDENCE, not arrogance.
We make decisions together, but if for some reason there is a difference of opinions, he has the final say.
As my pastor says, sometimes you have to go in the ditch.
This is why it is so important to have a mate with similar values and such. That following him is not the worse thing that could happen in your world.
This is how you show God’s love on earth through your marriage.
This verse is a great guide for women who are truly after God’s heart and living for him. Whether you are a mom, a married or single woman, this verse applies. We can all teach and learn from the lives of each other.
Keep in mind that you never know who is watching you. What you could be teaching them with your actions.
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