Expression, in any form is an opportunity for you to speak your truth. Speaking, writing, poetry, creating music, whatever you do, I encourage you to always speak what holds true for you.
What does that even mean?
Speaking your truth is about introducing people and the receivers of your gifts and talents to your perspective. Giving them your views and experiences just as you see, feel and experience them.
We sometimes mold and shape our stories to be less offensive, to be more agreeable; less detailed, to be more sparing; and less factual, to be more abstract. Therefore being less authentic!
“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.”
― May Sarton
I have found that for myself, stepping into my most authentic space and looking at my situations, experiences and thoughts/feelings for what they truly are makes me a better person.
They all make me better able to forgive, better able to love, better able to be grace-giving, and just overall better. They allow me to give empathy, compassion and understanding.
When I look at the picture and view it from the perspective that it has helped me to become who and what I am, I find gratitude. I attract people to the real me, and I became free to be the real me; authenticity gives me that freedom!Authenticity = I became free to be the real me Click To Tweet
I recently had the opportunity to share a piece of my story over at the Ebony Diaries. It was a great interview if I might say so myself. The finished product I was totally good with and felt good about.
In normal fashion I shared the post a couple places across social media because that’s what I do….
I was a bit surprised when I got an email from someone I shared with, who wanted to dissect my interview. This is a person pretty close to me, so not only was I surprised, but I was a tad bit hurt by it.
I got worked up and needed to vent about it, and I did all of that, but then I came to a realization.
While I will allow others to have their own perspectives and agree to disagree on what their view of situations and experiences we were mutually involved in, I will not be quiet to make them more comfortable. I will not allow them to take red marker and edit my story. I will not allow them to devalue my feelings.My feelings WILL NOT be downplayed! #speakyourtruth Click To Tweet
Feelings are subjective and honestly can’t be disputed. If you tell me that my actions made you feel a way, I have a few options. I can agree, I can disagree, I can explain my position and my why, but I cannot invalidate how it made you feel. Most times I will apologize whether I feel you to be right or wrong in your view of it. While it may not be an apology for what I have been accused of, it will always be a reason to apologize and that is for making you feel a way.
I guess I sometimes expect that others will do the same.
Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.
― Brené Brown
But we are all in different places along our own personal growth journeys and some of us will never arrive at a space where you can apologize even when you feel like you are not wrong. That’s ok too.
But what is not okay is to expect someone to edit their truth, down play their feelings and question themselves based on your perspective.
The reality is a lot of us allow others to do all of that to us, and we then inadvertently start to edit, modify and sometimes even mute our stories to make other people comfortable or ok.
My best advice to you is to allow yourself to first feel your truth. Taking the time to feel may leave you you feeling inclined to speak your truth. Speaking your truth allows you to continue to grow.
Don’t limit your growth because someone else wants to feel ok with their version of reality, and yours may challenge that.
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