The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman is a great read. If you haven’t already done so, I strongly encourage you to check it out.
This is a staple, must have book for those in love, looking for love, desiring to be lovable and whom none of these apply but you think you might want to understand true love a little better (I think this covers just about everyone, so it includes you too!), the author talks about how love is more than just a feeling and how you have to put love into action. We all have different languages that define love for us and determines what makes us actually feel loved.
Love languages are verbal and non-verbal communications between two people which improve the mental and physical well-being of both parties.
Acts of Service
Words of Affirmation
Chapman states that we all have a primary category we fall into, but I truly believe that all of these things collectively can help to make a person feel loved.
I want to give you some ideas that you can put into action to embrace, celebrate and keep the Romance alive within each of the love languages.
So here goes it….
5 ways to get the romance back
1. Acts of Service
Take over a chore or responsibility that is normally handled by your significant other. Guys relieve your lady from cooking one day, whether you chose to cook or you order in carryout. Take away the responsibility for a day. I don’t know about you ladies, but when my hubby does that, I instantly feel the LOVE!
2. Physical Touch
After you put the kiddies down for the night instead of going your separate ways and having you own personal time, give your honey a special massage and/or rub down with one of their favorite scented lotions or oil before bed (and you just might get lucky too…. I’m just saying)
3. Quality Time
Over the course of the week, find some time to do something together- check out a movie, stay home and cuddle up and watch a movie, cook a meal together and talk about something fun – whatever you like, but make it not only time spent, but QUALITY time spent….
4. Receiving Gifts
This one allows you to get creative. You can go out and buy your honey something, and it doesn’t have to be big, or you can make them something, at any rate a gift is a gift and one that has thought and special meaning is the best kind. I personally love when my honey comes home randomly with a beautiful bouquet of flowers on his way home from work. Makes me feel extra special like I was on his mind when he headed home and he wanted to see me smile!
5. Words of Affirmation
This one is HUGE especially for the men in our lives ladies. Words have so much power and as women when we speak life into our men it can make all the difference in the world for them. I often times will go and buy my hubby a card from the Between Me and You card collection that I typically find at Walgreens. Those cards are the BOMB.COM. They have ones for all occasions and every time I get one it literally says just how I feel, and when my hubby reads it he jokingly says “did you write this yourself?” But even better is to get a blank card and take the time to write some special words of affirmation and also speak them on the daily.
Something fun you could do, guys and gals, is to put a sticky note on the bathroom mirror every morning stating an affirmation for your special someone.
I am all about everything that has to do with love, so I hope you find that at least one of these helps you to love somebody.
Dr. Chapman also has additional books about love languages – childrens, singles, you name it he has it. you can check them out below.
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