This is one of my favorite scriptures by far. Recently I was reading through it and it dawned on me that although it is titled The Capable Wife, it applies to my single ladies out there too. I wish I had this one in my toolbox when I was still single. In my mind, these aren’t guidelines to be a good wife, but rather just flat out a good woman – single, married, or in a situation that falls under the Facebook label of “it’s complicated”.
You know how when you were a teenager and first licensed you would get in the car and just drive without even having a destination? (I know me and my friends were NOT the only ones who did that!) But as you got older and you really started to value a dollar and had to pay for gas, you cut out that foolishness. When you got in the car, you not only thought about where you were going but the best route to get there.
Let me ask you a question…
If you are dating just because, and not to find your life mate what’s the point?
Today I began thinking about the irony and similarities between childhood and adulthood decisions. It’s interesting how the presence of cause and effect still remain, yet at a different magnitude. I never realized how the seemingly small childhood experiences were preparation for the undeniably large adulthood experiences.
I got pregnant at 21, which happened in what felt like the hardest time of my life. I was sitting out of college for a semester trying to figure out how I was going to continue to fund my education. Then I found out I was pregnant – by him….
I’ve struggled with friendships, practically my whole life; and as cliché as it sounds, especially with females. As I’ve gotten older I am more open to it, but I feel too old to be trying to make new friends, when most adult women have already established their good girlfriends, and in a “no new friends” time we exist in its almost impossible.
Graduation season is a time filled with excitement, hope and even transition. When I graduated, there were some words I now realize I needed to hear. You don’t get do-overs in life, but you do have the opportunity to reflect and make change through your reflections. This is what I would say to myself, now knowing what I know about life.