DO NOT continue to read this article if you enjoy receiving sugar coated relationship advice or if you can’t handle the truth. Ignorance is bliss, but only for so long…
You’re still here?
Now that I know the type of person that I’m dealing with (smart, honest, and strong… you’re welcome!), we can get down to the nitty-gritty.
I have a couple of questions for you.
Would you like to get married? That’s not a proposal, just a simple question. I got a man.
No, but seriously… Are you in a serious relationship or working toward that point? It’s probably not such a bad idea; otherwise you’re just wasting your time right?
Well if you answered yes, then this love message will certainly not reach you in vain. It could even save your life. But please think outside of the box when I say save your life.
Okay I have some homework for you. Homework? On the first day??
Yes, but it’s pretty easy stuff. Next time you are with your honey love, your boo, your bae (you catch my drift), pay close attention to his or her flaws. I’m not talking about the hairy mole on her cheek or his deformed toe that he likes to rub against your leg during snuggle time. No, I’m talking about character flaws, bad habits etc. I know I know… sounds crazy right? Why would someone choose to focus on such negative things, especially when it comes to the ONE that they plan to spend the rest of their life with?
That brings me to my point.
It’s safe to say that forever is a long time if we are blessed enough to live long lives. Well consider spending the rest of your life cuddled up with those flaws. You know the little or even big things that kind of bother or irritate you, but you tolerate them because you “love” him or her. Pay very close attention, because the very things that bother you now will not just miraculously disappear when you get married. Oh no… Those will be the exact flaws that will most likely test your marriage. Now picture those traits magnified times ONE HUNDRED.It's safe to say that forever is a long time if we are blessed enough to live long lives. Click To Tweet
In marriage there is no just walking or running away. No ma’am. No sir. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you’re not getting away that easily. Those vows aren’t just sweet nothings. They are a spiritual and emotional binding contract witnessed by GOD.
“I’m tired of this!!”
Words that used to seal the deal or break up a relationship just won’t cut it anymore. It’s just not that easy, whether physically or emotionally. Now throw some extra emotions in the mix, like your young, innocent, and impressionable children’s emotions. Will you still be able to tolerate what you thought you could tolerate before? Will you still be able to “love” in spite of the hurt or irritation?? Throw that conditional crap out the door, because it won’t be able to go toe to toe and blow for blow with what marriage has in store. Will you be able to truly love unconditionally?
Okay so now that you’ve painted such an ugly picture of your potential spouse in your mind, think about all of the things that make them so special in your world.
Do they make you laugh?
Lift your spirits with kind words, tender kisses and warm hugs?
Do they bring out the best in you?
What about supporting and encouraging you to reach your highest potential?
Do they put God first and family second?
Will they pray for you?
How about, will they pray with you?
Or, will they be or are they now, a great parent?
Will they accept all of your flaws and love YOU unconditionally??
…..You get the picture.forever is a long time if we are blessed enough to live long lives... #marriage Click To Tweet
Now here comes the hard question.
With everything considered, is it worth staying or leaving? Is it time to pack your bags or accept the baggage?
Because no matter what anyone says, EVERYONE has baggage.
Some just have more than others. Some baggage can be carried on, while others are just too heavy of a burden. If you can’t see yourself staying. If you can’t see yourself helping your honey unpack and sort through all of his or her baggage, then do yourself and your future a huge favor by walking away now.
Save your life.
Marriage is not a cake walk. It’s a faith walk. But you see… that’s also what makes marriage so wonderful.#Marriage is not a cake walk. It's a #faithwalk. Click To Tweet