With February being the month of love, we tend to focus on the love within in our marital or adult relationships. But when you are a parent you have to share your love in several ways.
For me, I have three other people outside of my hubby who needs my love and attention. I have to constantly remember that the relationships with them need nurturing and attention to. As their mom, I hold a huge responsibility in keeping their little love tanks full.5 ways to show your children that you love them.... #parenting #love #children Click To Tweet
Here are a few ways to show your children that you love them:
1. Be attentive
My daughter loves to talk about what often times feels like a whole lot of nothing. I, most times, have no idea who she is talking about or what she is talking about and for a long time I would kinda tune her out and just nod or “uh-huh” until she realized I wasn’t really listening. She then got to the point where she would begin to say something, and then say “never mind” because she felt like I didn’t care anyway.
In turn, I also noticed that my hubby, who would listen to her more, is who she started gravitating to.
As of lately, I have been trying to do better with intentionally listening to what she is talking about and trying to understand. Not to mention, with all that these kids have access to and the pressures they carry these days, it is essential to listen and get a view of their world through their eyes. When they are willing to talk, we need to take in as much as we can.
Whenever I lean in for a kiss from my husband or we embrace in a hug, it almost never fails that my youngest (2) heads our way to intervene right in the middle. It’s as if he thinks that I am going to give all my love to daddy and not have enough for him.
My oldest (who is bigger than me) still hovers down to wrap her arms around me and get a hug whenever she can, or she leans in making fish lips for a kiss. At one point it would be a major production (and sometimes an issue) if my hubby or I was not gonna be there at bed time to hug, kiss and tell her good night.
Hugs and kisses are not just reserved for your spouse/significant other – children need them too!
3. Discipline them
This is my least favorite part of parenting. I wish I had kids who listened the first time I said something and who followed my directions, but I couldn’t be so lucky, (and if you are, we are no longer friends as of right now).
When kids get out of line, as much as you both hate it in that moment, they appreciate parents who are willing to correct them and advise them on right from wrong.
I am a firm believer that if you don’t do it, the world will, and the lessons out there are so much harder than when they are done in love, at home.
Do not withhold discipline from a child;
if you punish them with the rod, they will not die.
Punish them with the rod
and save them from death.
Be sure to apply the proper amount of discipline so that they know that you mean business and that you care about their overall well being, balanced with the right amount of love. (good luck with figuring out that equation)
4. Forgive them
This one, I am writing for myself. I have had a HUGE problem with letting something go when it is over.
I cannot tell you the number of times that my daughter and I may have had a bad day because of something that she did, and then I woke up and carried it over into the next day causing a headache and stress for both of us, in a new day.
I have found that when I correct her, I need to then forgive her. This shows her that I still love her and no matter what she does, it is ok and that my love does not change. By holding onto things it would make her self conscious in her abilities for fear of making mistakes; and that is not what I want for my daughter.
So even when your kids mess up, disappoint you or flat out break the rules, find a way to forgive them and move on (after disciplining them of course!)
5. Come to their level
This is an area that I need to work on. But coming down to your kids’ level and just doing what they like to do shows them that you care about them and what is important to them. Making the time to play a game of Uno, or compete with them in a board or electronic game can make them feel extra special. Not to mention that it can be a stress relief for you as well.
The other day my daughter wanted to watch this movie on Netflix and while hubby and I both had a million things we could have done, and a busy 2 year old running around the house, we sat down and watched the movie and actually enjoyed it.
She was really happy that we sat there and watched the movie with her and in turn she was super helpful when it came time to get her brother ready for bed. So in the end, I felt like I was winning!!
The love that kids get at home, shapes and molds so much of who they are and who they will become. We as parents have to be intentional to love on them and stay near to them in this crazy world we live in.
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